Updated: Sep 23
What is the EFT Tango?
A set of moves or interventions identified by Dr. Sue Johnson that we repeat over and over each session
These moves take us from content to process
The tango is so important because it allows clients connect in an experiential way to the attachment drama that drives their relationship distress and to share a new vulnerable message to their partner
When using the Tango we can never get lost in session because we can always go back to Tango move 1- reflect what you see in front of you.
As Carl Rogers said: “A good reflection is not a repetition- it is a revelation”
Steps and stages of EFT and the Tango
The steps (1-9) and stages (1-3) are the different stops on the journey to secure attachment- the final destination
The tango is the vehicle that takes us from stop to stop
Steps and stages are the WHERE: Where are we going?
Tango is the HOW- HOW do we get there?
We move through the steps and stages of EFT by using the EFT tango in each session
The moves of the tango simplified:
Reflect the attachment dance you see in front of you
Choose a vulnerability to explore with one partner
Have this partner share something new
Process both partners reaction to the new message
Summarize and/or celebrate